Itâs not to say thereâs no domination or submission in D/Lg, and itâs certainly the case that there can be discipline and sometimes even bondage!  But note the lower cases. Sometimes the question can be whoâs exercising discipline!
For instance, what if I mentioned that you seem awfully wiggly tonight, and you insisted you werenât. And what if I said âoh reallyâ and you said âwant me to prove I wonât wiggle no matter what you do, Daddy?â And I said, âok, tigerlily…â
Well.. I mean… Iâd have exactly zero interest in telling you either to wiggle or to stand perfectly still, would I? That would ruin the whole game if I did that, wouldnât it?!?! It would practically be cheating!
And so if chose to stand like a little statue and I chose to bunch all your hair in my big, strong fist and lift it out of the way so I could kiss your neck and ears and shoulders…
Well, whoâd be doing all the âdisciplineâ then? I mean, sooner or later youâd submit with a lower-case s, but youâd be submitting to yourself, wouldnât you? And I suppose you could call it lower-case d domination if I was trying to break your self-discipline. Â
But it would alllll still be 100% non-D/S D/Lg play, wouldnât it?
And want to know something else too? It would make you really, really horny too, wouldnât it?
wanna straddle a dom and grind on him all slow n sweet and kiss his neck, wanna giggle when he bucks his hips into me, want him to get handsy and grab my hips and thighs and ass, want him to groan low in my ear when he gets frustrated but still let me have my fun
Folks who donât get D/S or D/Lg or other BDSM kinks might be surprised at such a clear Submissiveâs detailed, active, engaged… and still thoroughly submissive wishlist.
But Submission is its own kink, one that fits very nicely with Domination, sure, but that exists 100% prior to and independent of any relationship with a Dom.
If you do understand D/S it makes perfect sense, of course. And, sure, it might or might not play out that way with an actual Dom, because each partner contributes something to every interaction. But a good Dom? Certainly a good Daddy? Yeah, if he knows thatâs his Sub or Littleâs hot, hot fantasy? Heâs going to find a way to facilitate that, isnât he?
Mmm, and not to put to fine a point on it but one of my favorite phrases as a top is âIâve let you have your fun, princess, but now itâs Daddyâs turn, isnât it?â
Ahahah. Good answer! If a couple of grams of hair more or less is really going to stop you from enjoying sex then… well… you canât be too interested in sex to begin with, can you?
A better, more historical answer might have been âYe Godâs man! If sheâs abyle to bathe her nether regions with enough frequencie to avoid yon lice and fleas then be she not cleane enough to licke them?â
Because, seriously, in much of the world women and men shave below the neckline not to be Teh Sexay but to avoid Teh Rashes and Insect Bites! It was common in the American pioneer days – those sod shanties and log cabins tended towards lice and fleas, and I promise you didnât want to get the lye soap most people had to use anywhere near your naughty bits! (Think about that next time you read Little House on the Prairie or watch John Wayneâs stubble-avoiding wide-stance swagger in old cowboy movies!)
As for porn creating unreal expectations, itâs worth mentioning that shaving was common enough in Victorian England that pornographers went out of their way to describe or depict womenâs pubic hair in lurid, lust-filled detail. The takeaway? Yeah, itâs pornâs fault but hair or no hair itâs always been pornâs fault.
I mean, I get it. If youâre too much of a wimp to kiss the back of your sweetieâs neck or behind her ear because youâre mortally terrified of hair then… well… I feel sorry for you but go for it. Otherwise, itâs just not that giant a puzzle.
An older, experienced, and ethical top will point out how many people could be watching his exhibitionist-kinky partner… but wonât point out that the windows are mirrored on the outside.
Because while exhibitionism is hot, involving others in sex play without consent isnât cool.
in the late afternoon when itâs so hot and thereâs no air conditioning a good top will gather your thick dark hair and gently blow on the back of your neck…
