I got into grinding when I was a very young man, when my partners and I were generally too shy to go âall the way.â Thereâs something very, um, attention getting about being able to give a girl and orgasm while youâre both fully dressed!
Later in life of course it was pretty common to move more quickly… and remove clothes more quickly. Â
But Iâve never stopped enjoying that feeling of holding someone close in my lap, kissing so passionately our faces practically melt together, my hands on her hips or ass pulling her closer so she can grind against me.
Even after youâve gotten my pants open, and Iâve gotten your pants or panties off, it still feels heavenly when you grind wetly against me, getting us closer and closer.
And even if neither of us can come that way itâs still one of the nicest, most intimate, and maybe the most reliable kinds ofâforeplayâ before we begin fucking in earnest.
I mean… when people say âwe had sex till dawnâ they canât possible mean they were just humping away the whole time, can they? If so then no wonder people think âvanillaâ is boring!
There is so much more to sex and we want yâall to know that!!
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Brilliant. Though for me, ASMR is not sexual, itâs intensely relaxing.
Even if youâve got a penis and a vagina handy. Itâs not that itâs not lovely (heh!) Just donât overprivilege vs all the other things.
One of my most pleasurable discoveries ever: fucking as foreplay!
(And donât even pretend this is a radical concept! Face it, men have been doing this in porn since at least the late 1980s, right? Fuck like bored aerobics instructors and then pulling out and dutifully wanking away while their co-worker stands by. Although, to be fair, thatâs not really âfucking as foreplay,â itâs fucking as your day job.)
But point remains, penises are awesome. Vaginas are awesome. Putting them together in different ways can be awesome. And same with several hundred other equally sensual, erotic, vanilla or kinky, and orgasmic activities. Â
While I often donât come during intercourse, being asked is a surprisingly effective way to get me there. (Having no germs and no sperm takes some of the âthrillâ out of it, but also a hell of a lot of the anxiety, no?)
I mean… I always can come but since it tends to take the wind out of my, um, sails I enjoy waiting even more. I think this counts as edging but I like to call it fucking as foreplay.
Back in the 20th Century, vanilla types made a giant fetish about âsimultaneous orgasms.â From dick-only fucking. Because anything else was considered âa little kinky.â Heh.
Then along came âshe comes first,â which was admittedly a big step up from âshe comes if she can come just from dick.â But that too was based on a 20th Century assumption that it was the manâs job to âprovideâ orgasms because women were still seen as largely passive recipients of menâs âprowess.â
Here in the 21st Century weâve got a hell of a lot more options, donât we, teacup? Mmhmm, we really do!
Feels stupid to say âI donât know why I like fucking this way so muchâ but… I couldnât possibly describe it other than maybe to say âobviously!â
Itâs not really a position I come well in, and not the best for you either. But itâs not the 20th Century anymore so fucking isnât just about orgasms, is it? Thank goodness! We donât come from dancing either but that doesnât mean it doesnât feel really fucking good. Â
