i like being slapped around and spit and pissed on and made into a pathetic mess but only after ive been told how precious i am
i like being “daddys filthy slut” but i dont like being a “worthless ugly bitch”
i guess i enjoy like, the loving kind of humiliation? like its fun to make a fool out of myself for someone else’s enjoyment, as long as they assure me of my worth and tell me i’m a princess while i’m doing it.
Right? Kind of like “hate fucking” it would be weird to do any of those things to someone you didn’t actually like.
Certainly not if you didn’t know they got off on it as much as or even more than you.
I hesitate to say don’t do this to someone who actually deserves it, because tbh nobody actually deserves it.
But if it makes more than your cheeks burn, twinklebutt, and we can cuddle and I can call you princess after? Then mmmmaaaybe…
When I say “I want to be tied up” what I’m really saying is “I want to trust you enough to let go.”
When I say “I want to be slapped” what I’m really saying is “That sting makes me feel real.”
When I say “I want be spanked” what I’m really saying is “I want to feel accountable to you.”
When I say “I want be gagged” what I’m really saying is “Help me silence the thoughts in my brain.”
When I say “I want to be used” what I’m really saying is “I need to feel small and insignificant.”
When I say “I want to be defiled” what I’m really saying is “I feel dirty. Make it go away.”
When I say “I want be forced ” what I’m really saying is “Help me not feel guilty about my desires.”
“When I say “I want to be marked” what I’m really saying is “I need to feel you here even when you’re not.”
When I say “I’m yours” what I’m really saying is “I love the way you love me.”
When I say “I love you” I mean just that.
Source compliKated – Fetlife
this is cute.
This is also awesome!
I get that it’s not always obvious that there’s such a huge gap between kink and abuse. But that’s why it’s important to come up for air long enough, and go meta enough, to make the differences crystal clear.
For the record, if I didn’t understand how you felt, and if I didn’t reciprocate those feelings, I couldn’t lift a finger or say a word.
Chances are surprisingly good that if we didn’t have all the social pressure, guilt trips, need for vigilance and self-protection, perpetual deluges of oppression, and the aftermath of both petty and deep real abuse, most of us would be perfectly happy being blandly vanilla. Although “vanilla” activities might be considerably more, um, robust and less deferential and tentative. But we do have all that bullshit, and so we wind up with kinks. That’s why we call them kinks!
But hells yes:
I wouldn’t bind you if I didn’t know you trusted me
I wouldn’t spank you if you didn’t want to be spanked.
I wouldn’t slap or gag or force you unless I know that’s what you need to let go
I wouldn’t “use” you if I didn’t think it fed your fires too.
And if I said “I love you” I’d mean it from the bottom of my heart.
By Thomas Oldenough | March 16, 2019 | Comments Off on As requested, an assessment of the Dollbreaker Tumblr blog
“Thoughts on the dollbreaker blog? I’m not trying to start drama or anything, I just spent a few minutes scrolling through and now I feel sick and really bad about myself. Guess i just want reassurance that not all older men think like that? I’m never goibg to fit the mold of lean and petite with perky breasts.” — Anonymous Ask
So years ago I was listening to a panel of child-development experts and television programming and the moderator mentioned that they couldn’t stand Barney the TV dinosaur. One of the panelists expertly dragged him, saying “they don’t make it for you.”
A few years later my infant son was sitting in my lap, sick with a cold, while we watched TeleTubbies. At some point they did… something or other… and my son laughed like an adult. Not the nervous or silly infant laugh babies often do around grownups, but a deep in the belly “heh heh heh” laugh of appreciation.
That’s when that original panelist’s remark sank in. TeleTubbies wasn’t for me. But it sure as hell was right on the money for an 18-month-old.
So that’s how I feel about dollbreaker. I’d never taken a close look till you mentioned it – I’d bump into their reposts from time to time but, no surprise, it’s not for me! After taking a close look I’ll say the author is very good at a particular kind of topping that, based on his engagement, seems to appeal to Subs with an equally particular humiliation/degradation/inadequacy kink.
I’m going to be hyper generous and say that whether accidentally or on purpose, their seemingly random posts of very young, very slender women deepens that sense of erotic inadequacy for their followers.
But looking at their follower engagement the author is ironically very accommodating. They either don’t receive or at least don’t reblog comments from the usual misogynist/red-pill/incel, legitimately anti-feminist you see elsewhere on Tumblr. And based on their occasional meta comments I don’t think the author supports that kind of bullshit in real life.
In other words I get the impression they clearly distinguish between their and their user’s kink vs actual real-world misogyny, gender degradation, and humiliation. And that’s very different from a lot of the legitimately misogynistic stun-porn xxxtreme “bondage” porn sites like Kink.com that cater to primarily vanilla-male-spectators consumers.
After reading 50 or 60 of their posts I get the strong impression that dollbreaker caters to women subs. I don’t like it. Like you it makes me feel queasy. I can see how it makes you feel bad about yourself. And if your kink isn’t based on those bad feelings about yourself then, yeah, I can see how it would make you feel sick too.
But here’s the deal about that: there are huge numbers of people out there, including other kinksters, who think the whole D/Lg kink and all its practitioners are equally sickening, patriarchal, regressive, etc. My assessment is that dollbreaker and their followers are in a similar position.
I’ll just echo what that panelist said so many years ago: dollbreaker doesn’t make it for us.
I’m so willing to be made wrong about this. But that’s my honest, admittedly generous assessment after a first serious look.
p.s. If my assessment is correct then I could do without the whole “sorry feminists” lines they occasionally toss in. It’s not because it’s “not for me,” it’s because it comes across as lazy signaling rather than creative topping.
A nice Daddy says “omg, angel, what got into you? I didn’t expect this at all. You look so ridiculously cute looking up like that at me. Feels so incredible! I know you like when I pull your hair, is this ok? Oh, sweetie, you’re going to make. me. come. any. second…!!!”
A mean Daddy says “I’ll keep filming if you want, bootstrap, but folks are going to be noticing that open toilet seat lid than noticing you.”
This is kind of awesome!!! And even if your fetish is humiliation you shouldn’t feel ashamed of that. Just yourself. For being a wonderfully nasty little pervert!
You have one purpose, and if he would rather look at porn than use your drippy cumsockets to masturbate with, that doesn’t change your job description.
Don’t screw it up stupid.
Just for the record, while I do my best to accommodate someone’s humiliation kink when I’m topping them, I’m… probably never going to be able to convincingly pretend like I’d rather be looking at porn while you’re there.
I’m sorry. I’m a pretty good actor. But, yeah, never going to be that good.
